Chatting

I have recently read a story of a couple divorcing, after both of them having an online affair, on various different websites. When I first read the title I thought, oh well it is apparently getting very common these days what’s so newsworthy about it. This however is a very, sort of funny and bizarre story.


This happened to a Bosnian couple where they both met an interesting person online and began to pour out their hearts over the marriage trouble and each thought they have found their real soul mate with their chat buddy.

They got so close to their chat buddy that they decided to finally meet them … only to find that they where chatting to each other.

They met online what the husband 32 was chatting on a forum at work, and the wife, 27 was in an internet café.

They decided to meet infront of a shop, each of them carrying a single rose so they can recognize each other. The woman said that she felt shattered, betrayed and angry when she realized she was talking to her husband.



On the other hand the husband said that he was so happy to have found a woman who finally understood him.

Now they are both filing for divorce, with each accusing the other of being unfaithful.

Some questions that went through my mind:

• If they both thought that they found their soul mates, why didn’t they give their marriage another try?
• If they could pour their hearts out to their chat buddy, why couldn’t they do so with their partner?
• Why did they say nice things to their chat buddy but not to each other?
• Is that why you tell your partner of the love you have for him/her and then after some time you go to tell the problems you have with each other to your chat buddy instead of discussing it with your partner maybe you can solve them?
• Is this what internet is becoming? If these are the problems that it will create I will prefer having the normal old printed dictionaries, encyclopedias and CD games and buying all the newspaper that I usually read online and not to having to use the internet any more. I would prefer searching for all the information I will need on a book then on the internet if that will mean that it will be harder for my partner or myself to stray on each other like that.

I know that without internet or not, if a person want’s to stray it can be done, but hey if it is that easy, won’t an adventure be easier for people who usually will not stray?

Until recently, adultery has been a sin of the flesh. Temptation arrives, chemistry sizzles and before long the unfaithful spouse is spending stolen nights in cheap hotels. Now there is a new threat: the virtual affair. While some argue online affairs aren't real, research shows some spouses take them as seriously as the offline variety - and they're becoming a gateway to divorce.

Won’t it be better if one takes the energy that might have revitalized a relationship and uses it, instead, to pursue an unhealthy fantasy? If you want to be happy, you must, in the long run, stay focused on your priorities, and not allow yourself to be driven by transient emotions and passions.

Two very interesting website I found on this topic are:
1. http://www.harley.com/
2. http://www.smh.com.au/